- Book Style: Parenting style book for parents of children 0-18
- Reading Length: 120 minutes, 133 pages
- Author: Bernadette Mather
- Purchase Page: Amazon UK
Holding Hands is a parenting book that details a simple four principle style of parenting that is intended to create children who are more secure. This in turn will create fewer adults with self-esteem issues, eating disorders, addictive behaviors, etc.. All of this goes to helping the world to become a more peaceful and loving place.
As a parent of a young child, I can promise you that I’ve read a large number of parenting books. I’ve spent my time analyzing my parenting methods, and I’ve also modified my parenting style as a result of those books. What’s funny about this is that I’ve always returned to some basics after a short period of time; a set of basics that just resonates with me.
See, I’m not a complicated thinker; no, I’m a man. That basically means I can’t think past the moment and I rarely consider long-game strategies. That doesn’t mean what I’m doing is completely wrong, it just means how I treat my child is entirely based off what I think is best for us.
Why does this little story about my imperfect male condition matter? Well, as I read Bernadette’s book I realized that her principles were very simple, yet I somehow agreed with every one of them. I found myself agreeing with the simplicity of what she was saying and I found that I was naturally doing most things. I suddenly felt vindicated by my instincts as a parents and that I had a bit of a chance (in this moment) to pat myself on the back.
When I look at what I’ve accomplished as a father (and my wife as a mother), we haven’t exactly been the model of success:
- My baby didn’t sleep 14 hours a night every night
- My wife and I decided that we had to feed our child formula after he weened himself
- I haven’t yet taught my child to catch a ball or to smack a hockey puck (sorry, I’m Canadian…that’s a requirement)
- My child can’t even read, and he’s almost ready for kindergarten
Yet, somehow he’s a happy and healthy individual who now tells me when he needs something and explains to me all kinds of things he finds interesting. He knows that he can protest when it’s important, and he knows that I/we will listen. Our family has a connection that goes far beyond catching a ball. We love each other, and our little guy knows it.
See, that’s one of the guiding principles that Bernadette has given us: love. It sounds simple enough, and it is. It still takes work and the patience of a saint, but it’s generally simple to do. Not only does she give us these principles, but our author also helps us to know how we can live by these principles at the different ages of our children. The book becomes a step-by-step guide that is easy to understand and to put into action.
In the end, this is a parenting book that is different than others in that its simple approach makes for an easy implementation. It is also very easy to get behind the theory of the book, as it tends to vindicate the natural instincts of parents. In saying all this, it’s easy to recommend such a positive parenting book with such a low price tag. It’s only £8.00 on Kindle and a slight bit more (£9.60) for a paperback version. Either way, head off to Amazon here to get your copy!
Until next time…smash, crash, and learn!